Are We Still Brothers

Ngimanene na Muchere

Elder Lister
Mnajua vile siblings humaliza high school na moja "anaonekaniwa" and flies out of the country for further studies leaving the other one behind. Anaenda ulaya and establishes a life huko, and there's no physical presence just virtual and phone calls. 15 years later mujamaa anarudi, familia in tow for the holidays.
Nimetoka kula Ngimanene na matumbi na jamaa ameniambia his brother is here visiting, haven't seen each other physically for 15 years and it's terribly awkward. "I know he's my brother, but I don't know him. A lot changes in 15 years"
 
It's expected. You grow apart from your siblings once you have a family. Anglia relationship ya your grandparent na siblings wake.
 
Speaking from experience, maintaining this relationship is not easy.

If it feels awkward, then its because you are still living in the past.

You are both grown and now you need to do grown men things.


Do you call your brother to hang out, ama unapeleka watoto wako to hang out with his and vice versa.... That's one of the many ways to maintain a close relationship

This is excellent advice.

Hang out and go out together.

Just be sure not to fall into bad habits za kitambo.

You are both grown adults. Zile za kitambo zibaki kwa photo album.

Make new traditions as family men.

Mwabie ampeleke VIP lounge wa catch up

AS is suggested here.

Remember that you both have grown. The issue usually comes when people are stuck in the past.

Once upon a time mlikuwa manmeza ma keg JKUAT campus pamoja.

Now elevate. Si lazima Eka Hotel but something new.

Get a new hobby that you can both enjoy even when far apart yenye haiko kwa bar.

Online gaming, excercise/sport kama mpira ama basketball, car/bike enthusiasim etc.

Thats how you stay close and grow together.
 
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